The Yarnell 7: The Seven Core Decisions for Extraordinary Living by Amy Yarnell Carter

Author:Amy Yarnell Carter [Yarnell Carter, Amy]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Published: 2017-08-28T07:00:00+00:00

The Habit of Complaint

“NO WHINING!”

—Mark Yarnell

Human beings are such interesting creatures. Have you ever noticed that when you ask a friend or an acquaintance or even a complete stranger how they are doing, that the response is 90 percent negative? The complaints are endless!

“How am I? Well, my boss, ugggggh. She is just AWFUL. Today she …”

“I am just ready for this weather to pass … it is so dreary!”

“I am doing pretty well but my son is about to send me over the edge!”

I cannot begin to figure out why humans get so stuck on the down side of the teeter-totter of happiness. Even though elimination of the teeter-totter is inevitable as a TY7 Decision Maker, it is still hard to resist a good complaint because they are used as bonding tools between humans. We tend to commiserate with one another about the annoyances of the day. And as a TY7 Decision Maker, you will find it strange that when you offer something that is upbeat in response to the incessant negativity, sometimes the complainer can’t even hear it! They just continue as if you haven’t said anything at all … but don’t give up on spreading the happiness.

As a person who is now well on your way to living an extraordinary life, I implore you to change this habit within yourself. If someone asks you how your day was, you either respond with “FANTASTIC” or you respond with something specific like, “it was great because …” I know that the more we focus on what is awesome collectively as a species, the better things will be.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining—it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.”

—Zig Ziglar

So today, choose to be a leader in the TY7 campaign for extraordinary living and stop the whining! If you catch yourself coming up with a complaint to commiserate with the human species, catch it and write it down in the worksheets in the back of this book. Now, verbally, say something positive at the end. “I can’t stand this weather” turns into “I can’t stand this weather but it was still a great day and I know it will be beautiful outside soon!”

Another really awesome tool when you are in the habituated state of commiserative complaining is to verbally (and internally) note that the bad makes the good! For example, “I know, Hilda, this weather is awful but what I do love is the fact that the crappy weather makes beautiful weather seem even more beautiful!” This is similar to giving your past the recognition of the fact that without it, you wouldn’t have become the fabulous human being you are. You can do this with almost everything, “My boss is a real jerk but she has taught me so much about how to be a better leader!” When you start a complaint, recognize the good that comes out of the situation.

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